I went to a church function about six months ago, and I ended up sitting at a table with a Principal that I had interviewed with awhile back. We were very amicable and talkative at the table for awhile. When her husband sat down, she introduced me to him as a teacher that she interviewed awhile back. She continued to go on and say that I didn’t get the job because I lacked a few qualifications.
According to Dr. Sue in the video this week, I experienced microinvalidation. The principal insulted my professional experience. At the time that this took place, I felt embarrassed and shocked. I was embarrassed that everyone at the table heard that I was not qualified to teach at her school even though I have my teaching certificate, and I was shocked that a leader like herself would publicly degrade a person.
The assignments this week helped me recognize my perception as well as others regarding discrimination, prejudice, and stereotypes. Today I called to reschedule a doctor’s appointment for my son, and it took nearly 30 minutes because the lady did not speak English well. My knowledge of microaggressions kicked in because I did not want to say anything to offend this lady. I was very polite and very patient knowing that she must have felt embarrassed that she could not understand my spelling of my son’s name. This week I realized that sometimes we do not think before we speak, and these words can really have lasting effects on a person.
Stacey,
ReplyDeleteExcellent Post!!!!! I have been in the same situation not knowing what a person is saying. They would get so frustrated with you and we are feeling the same way, but there's a way to handle yourself in a professional matter. Don't say what you want to say, just take a big swallow with a smile and handle yourself professional. I know it's hard at times but just be real :-).
Hi Stacey!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing!
I can't imagine the emotions you were feeling when the principal made that comment. This are the very comments and ideas we will work hard to conquer as a result of taking this course.
Great job!