Reflecting on Learning

My most passionate hope for the children and families that I will work with is that each person can learn to treat everyone fairly. In order to do that, I have to help everyone understand their misconceptions, and we have to talk about them and then work through them. I also have to set the example of being an unbiased professional. As a teacher, I am fortunate to have each child and family for a year, and I believe this is a lot of time to make a lot of changes. I am walking away from this class realizing that I have the power to change society around me one person at a time.

I want to thank all of my fellow colleagues for taking the time to read my blog each week. Thank you for sharing your insights and experience with me. We only have one more class, and then we graduate! I am wishing you all the best of luck.

Impacts on Early Emotional Development

This week I had to study what kinds of challenges children are struggling with around the world. I chose to take a closer look at children living in Latin America and the Caribbean. I chose this area because I do not know anything about this region. The rest of the world is making the news every night, but it seems to be rather quiet south of our country. All of my research was taken from the UNICEF website.

I learned about a lot of challenges that children in this region are confronting. About 60% of children under the age of 12 live in poverty. HIV and Aids is wiping out the region, and the Caribbean is the second largest region with Aids. One out of every five children suffers from chronic malnutrition. About 85,000 children die each year due to violence in the home. Natural disasters are common in this region. Children are still struggling from the big the natural disaster in Haiti two years ago. About two million children mostly girls are sexually exploited. Many times it is at home. It seems as though these children do not even have a fair chance at life.

I can only imagine how these experiences are taking a toll on children’s emotional wellbeing and development. Children probably feel neglected, alone, and hopeless. Derman Sparks & Edwards also stated that children may feel shame, self-limitation, and self-hate. Children may feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel. Thankfully programs like UNICEF are offering these children hope by providing help with the donations of many Americans like you and I.

This assignment forced me to reflect on a lot of things. Personally, my heart just ached when I read all of these statistics. It seems like these children do not even have a chance at survival with all of the challenges ahead of them. I want to share this site with others when they begin to complain about the smallest things in life. Professionally, my eyes have been opened. I have seen with my own eyes children living in straw huts in China, but I cannot even begin to fathom all of this in Latin America. As a teacher, I would love to teach my students about what other students are struggling with around the world. I would also like to invite them to help. We could have a coin drive to send to UNICEF and we could collect donations. I realize now that I have not only been called to be a teacher, but I have been called to be a child advocate as well and speak up for those who cannot.

The Sexualization of Early Childhood

This week we read, "So sexy so soon: The new sexualized childhood and what parents can do to protect their kids." I was pretty speechless when I was done reading this article. I was aware that young girls are having self esteem issues today, but I did not realize how big sexualization of early childhood is. Levin & Kilbourne (2009) shared that young kids are talking about “blow jobs” and girl’s Halloween costumes now look like they came from a Victoria Secret show. I am just amazed how true everything is. They really shed some light on a topic in our field that needs to be addressed by professionals like ourselves.

I can recall a few examples of how prevalent sexualization is in early childhood. First, my best friend’s daughter is currently being mocked at school because of her large chest. This started when she was in second grade, and it is to the point she just does not want to go to school. Second, there are quite a few tv shows that are glamorizing little beauty queens. It is so sad because we get to see little girls hearts being broken on national television because they are not pretty enough. Third, I have witnessed little four and five year old boys kissing girls on their cheeks. I am sure they learned this while watching television.

Sexualization in early childhood is a big problem because children are still developing themselves (Levin & Kilbourne, 2009). Children are growing up too fast and missing out on their childhood because they are worrying about adult issues. As an early childhood professional, my suggestion is sit down with children and talk about. Children need to know what is age appropriate compared to what they have seen or heard. My team could go a step further and do an assembly on this topic. At the moment, I will intervene immediately and respond when I hear children talking about sexualization.

This topic of sexualization in early childhood has really opened my eyes. I think children today have it a lot harder than when we grew up. They have to worry about so many things. This discussion this week has made me aware that children are growing up to fast because of the bias environment they live in. I also feel that I need to become more of an advocate because families especially need to be aware of this new trend. I may only be one person, but I realize that I can make a difference.

Reference:

Levin, D. E., & Kilbourne, J. (2009). [Introduction]. So sexy so soon: The new sexualized childhood and what parents can do to protect their kids (pp. 1–8). New York: Ballantine Books. Retrieved from: http://dianeelevin.com/sosexysosoon/introduction.pdf

Evaluating Impacts on Professional Practice

This week we were asked to imagine that we are experiencing some type of “ism” at work, and we are to share our reactions from those around us.

I am pretending that I am struggling with racism. A family in my class is from India, and I have unconsciously avoided speaking to this child’s parents in the afternoon when he is picked up. The parents have not verbally said anything to me because they are responding back with stereotypes. They sent me a Valentine’s Day card that was written in Spanish thinking that I speak Spanish because I look Hispanic.

While I am experiencing this “ism,” the people around me are suffering. The child is also most likely feeling uncomfortable in my class because he is mimicking his parent’s stereotypes. He does not want to talk in class because he must feel that he is not that important because I do not make time to talk to his parents daily. The parents most likely feel shunned and feel that I do not value their opinion or even their presence. After receiving the Valentine’s Card, I also feel a little down to because I wish I could speak Spanish, but I do not. I also feel offended that people continue to assume that I speak this language simply by the way I look.

My struggle with racism has left a lot of people including myself feeling unimportant. My “ism” has interfered with my parent/teacher communication, and it has taken a toll on my student. As early childhood professionals, we need to take time often to self reflect how we really feel about diversity. Do you treat people differently because of the way they look or what they do for a living? We need see ourselves for who we really are, and then we need to make changes to become anti-bias. We need to set a good example for our students!

Observing Communication

This week we were asked to observe an adult communicate with a child. I watched a mother communicate with her two children as I walked my son to school this morning. She caught my attention because she was walking with her arms around both kids the whole way there. I love seeing this type of affection from parents! This family was only a few steps ahead of us, so I could hear everything that they were talking about. I heard her children talking to her about everything from what they were going to do after school to a favorite toy. The mother patiently listened the whole time. When they arrived at school, the Mom leaned down to kiss both of them good-bye and said, “Have a good day!”

I feel that I did witness some effective communication. I observed a lot of nonverbal communication which is in my opinion more important than verbal communication. This Mom patiently listened to her children without interrupting. She made them feel important. She also made them feel special and loved as she kissed and hugged them. Children made have their basic needs to survive, but the need love and affection to really thrive in our world. This Mom exhibited effective communication with her children.

The scenario that I witness did not really align with our topic of persona dolls this week, but it did align with everything that I have been taught so far in our Master’s program. I know how important nonverbal communication is, and I know that we need more parents like this Mom involved in our schools. Families are the backbone to a child succeeding. I do not believe this Mom could have done anything more to be more effective.

The children’s self worth should be pretty high from what I observed. I see this Mom walking her children to school every day as well as picking them up. She is very active in their academic learning because I have heard her ask about their school day on other occasions. These children know that they are loved by the affection that I have observed, and thus they must feel that they can conquer anything! Their hierarchy of needs is met, and they do have self worth.

This week I learned that I need to step back and do some more listening with my boys instead of doing all the talking. I was in awe of how patient and in tune this Mom was when listening to her children. I often do a lot of talking when my boys get home from school because I have to dig deep for answers. I realize now that they do want to talk, but it is not about school. I should let them talk about their interests like Eric Hoffman has shared with us this week, and then I can build on it. In my case, I can listen to them talk more about what they want to, and I bet they will talk to me about their school day when they are ready. Nonverbal communication truly goes a long way!

Creating Affirming Environments

This week we had to design an anti-bias environment for a home daycare. The following are some things that you will find in my home:

Family Photo Wall- Young children may have a hard time adjusting to school after they are dropped off, and a seeing a picture of their family can really bring a child comfort. Adriana had one at her center as well. This wall can also provide a clear picture of diversity to other students. Derman-Sparks & Edwards (2010) also recommends that children draw a picture of their family for homework.

Family Culture Display- I really liked this idea after looking at Adriana’s home daycare. She has one family bring in some cultural artifacts monthly that represent their family, and I would love to do this bi-weekly. Children would be able to really see a lot of diversity as well as learn more about where each student comes from.

Parent Bulletin Board- This is where my parents will find the schedule for the day and other pertinent information about my program. A copy of my diplomas will be posted so parents can see that their teacher is educated, and parents can feel confident in leaving their child with me. The schedule will be posted so parents know what children will be doing during the day and when is a good time to peak in on their child if they want. Children will be able to refer back to the schedule as well to see what is going to happen next.

Centers- My centers are one of the most important parts of my learning environment. Children do not have a very long attention span, so centers are pertinent so children can rotate every 15 minutes or so. My centers will include books that have people of all different colors and jobs. I may have a book with a picture of a male teacher or another book with a girl wearing a blue shirt. I will also have dolls in my dramatic play center that have different skin tones. Adriana also had colored dolls in one of her centers. I will have an art center with a lot of materials available to use in bins. Children will have the option to use their imagination to create whatever they want.

Exercise Balls- These balls are for students who need to get some energy out. I like to have these in the corner of my room so other children do not get distracted while doing work.

Family Potluck- I love this idea that Derman-Sparks & Edwards (2010) shared! I plan to invite parents in monthly or bi-monthly for a potluck lunch with our students. As a parent, I love to come into the classroom whenever I can. It is like an open house every month because parents can see what is going on in the classroom!

Parent/Teacher Log- When I was in the classroom, I sent home weekly log for the parents to see each day. It included the topics we learned about during the week as well as tips to help parents to help their child at home. This log has space for the parents and I to interact on a daily basis. Parents may be able to let me know that their child will have an early out, or I can share about the child’s day. I also make sure to at least once a week write a positive note about every student in their log!

Reference:

Derman-Sparks, L., & Olsen Edwards, J. (2010). Anti-bias education for young children and ourselves. Washington, D.C.: National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC).

What I Have Learned...

One hope that I have for children when learning about diversity is just to help see that everyone is different, and that this is ok! When children walk into my classroom, they come to me as a "mini me" of their parent. Of course, they have picked up on their parent's bad habits first instead of good. I hope to teach children that it is ok to think for themselves, so they can decide to accept the black person just like the white person or the hard working custodian just like the teacher.

One goal that I would like to set for our field is to implement more hands on learning that can expose children to diversity. I realize now that this is so easy to do. It can be done by simply using pictures, videos, but I would really like to have people come into my classroom if possible. Children need to see that a woman can be a doctor, and a man can be a nurse, etc. Anti-bias education is something that our field needs, and it can be done with something as simple as adding a few lessons to our curriculum.

I would like to thank all of you again for your professional support and encouragement! I have learned a lot about myself in this course as well as a lot about each of you. I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy Holidays for those who do not celebrate. I cannot believe we are two courses away from graduation!!!